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Life is often a crazy balancing act. Family, work, school, relationships, hobbies – finding balance somewhere in there is an arduous process. More often it’s simply a reminder that there’s not enough time to do it all. When I was younger, I used to think that there’d be a time in my future when balance would naturally happen as a result of maturity and life experience. Not so much. The older I got, the more complex and complicated things became. As you’ve probably experienced in your life, along with age comes growth, maturity, and increased responsibility. Add in a spouse, children, a mortgage and, well, there you have it. You might be able to manage more stuff because you’re all grown up but that doesn’t make life easier.
And so the search for that ever-elusive balance continues. When I’m out of balance, I tire easily. I snap. I lose my temper regularly with the people I love the most. I lose focus on the things that are most important. My priorities are out of whack and I usually start spinning my wheels. You get the idea.
I recently brought this struggle into my time with my spiritual director and as usual he turned it around on me in a very subtle, wise way. Try this one on: he said as far as he can see there’s no reference to “balance” in the scriptures. I had to stop and think about that. No mention. Not in the Gospels, Proverbs, anywhere.
He described that if I’m holding 50 lbs in my right hand and 150 lbs in my left then balance is shifting the excess weight from my left to my right hand. The problem with balance is that either way I adjust the weight, I’m still holding 200 lbs. Balance simply forces me to continue to bear whatever immense weight I’m holding, just in a different way. Balance might give me the illusion of rest as I shift weight from one set of muscles to the next but I’m really just using different muscles. The result is a subtle, growing fatigue as I choose to focus on whatever weight is demanding the most of my energy in the moment.
He went on to describe that while there’s no mention of balance there is a great deal of talk in the Bible about “rhythm.” In a super-short explanation of a massive Biblical theme, he outlined that we see God creating the earth in six days, resting on the seventh. Sabbath. Then, every seven years, the nation of Israel was to observe Shmita or a Sabbatical year where there was to be no planting, plowing, growing, or reaping. Rest for the land, rest for the workers. Then, every seven Sabbatical years (yes, that’s forty-nine years) no work was to be done, land borrowed and sold was returned to its original owners, and slaves were set free. The year of Jubilee. Rhythm. It’s all there in Leviticus.
Now, I’ve heard this Sabbath and Jubilee stuff before but never put in these terms: If rhythm is God’s process for restoring creation, his personal and preferred method for creativity, production, and work in the things that he made and the people that follow him then shouldn’t it exist in my own life? I know I’m supposed to take a Sabbath and I usually do. But beyond observing a day of rest, what is all this talk about rhythm in the Bible supposed to look like day to day, hour to hour?
Back to the metaphor. Rhythm is putting down all 200 lbs for a period of time so that you’re holding nothing. Put it down. Empty your hands. Hold nothing. Engaging your faith in this process means trusting that when it’s time to go back and pick up your 200 lbs that it’ll still be there waiting for you. Here are the personal applications I’m working on. It’s not rocket science:
- Work hard when it’s time to work. Stop working when it’s time to stop working.
- Grazing on technology at home takes away from family and real-life relationships.
- Put everything down – One hour a day, one day a week, one weekend a quarter, one week a year.
I’m finding that rhythm is a discipline. But its rhythm, not balance, that restores the soul.
Turns out, I don’t want balance at all. I want rhythm.
Where in your life do you need to create rhythm rather than pursue balance? What rhythms do you have that restore your soul?
If rhythm is anything like physical exercise, you know what happens when you’re rested and recovered? You come back stronger. After putting everything down, when it comes time to go back and pick it up, you might just find you’ll be able to comfortably lift 300 lbs. Just remember to put it back down again.